I think what D!ce said earlier in this thread is something that is having a big effect on your socialising, I'm talking about how your classifying guys as "alpha's".

You should try not to class them as alpha's because a person that you class as an alpha basically means you see that guys as somewhat a threat. This is bound to make you more nervous/hesitant, creating a harder situation for yourself. You can class a guys as an alpha without even talking to him or 'he looks alpha'.

I sometimes look at a guy and think he's alpha but them immediately say something really stupid to myself as a kind of refferance to the 'alpha'. Something like those money supermarket adverts "your so money supermarket you don't even know it" this then, in my mind, totally lowers my perception value of the guy back down to just an odinary no threat guy and also gives me a confidence boost of like 'yeah I can do this shit'.
Most of the time I don't use this because I hardly ever see a guy as a threat.


Maybe not the way I do it will be beneficial for you but I think you really need to tackle the way you label certain guys as alphas. But do this in-field, learn from experience. Meaning still approach people, both girls and guys and gradually you'll move away from this labelling system you have whilst still improving socially.