Good, you've defined where your at, now build on that. Make steady small improvements in your life in the direction of where you want to be.

Wings are not essential, but they can be helpful, the key is simply to get out and talk to people. If you're not comfortable talking to women or opening then chat to anybody, about anything. Greet people in the street, in the lift, talk to people where you work. Ultimately loosen your self up a bit socially and allow yourself to act naturally around others, the rest will follow.

You may need to travel a little if your in the styx , but otherwise just try any local bars, pubs, coffee shops, town centre's or generally anywhere where there are people.