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Originally Posted by Serendipity
What you posted earlier resonated with me. When I find myself in a new environment, on holiday or whatever, it seems to free my mind up to be whatever I want to be.
This also ties in with the thing about seeing people or imagining events from your past and it taking you back to another time and place that isn't always a pleasant experience.
Proper psychology stuff I've read about this phenomenon says that what's happening is you are fusing with the thoughts rather than just letting them pass through.
You can't stop them coming up, you just have to notice when they come up and let them go on their way. They're actually harmless on their own - it's fusing with them that causes the problems.
So first step is to be aware they are just thoughts (words) and you are not your thoughts.
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Over a good few years I've let these thoughts linger in my mind, each 1 springing a new possibility "what if this... what if that..." and so on until my thinking has basically taken over me. The shield I talked about in my earlier post could have been set up by me when I felt threatened, in order to protect myself from my mind. I don't want to think about this, I want to allow the pieces to fall into place. Sometimes a completely random thought will pop into my head and it seems to answer questions and that's it; no thinking.
I'm having a problem in letting go because I can't get at them. I have to peel them off like peeling off a sheet of paper in the game 'pass the parcel', then I'll have the relief when I finally take off the last layer.
I completely agree when you say
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Originally Posted by Serendipity
You can't stop them coming up, you just have to notice when they come up and let them go on their way. They're actually harmless on their own - it's fusing with them that causes the problems.
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I realised that I wasn't in fact myself, I was in an unconscious state made up purely of words, thoughts and experiences. As soon as this comes crashing down whenever I approach someone it's like I've snapped out of a trance. During this I realised
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Originally Posted by Serendipity
they are just thoughts (words) and you are not your thoughts.
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