Thanks for the comments Barney.

Minds come up with reasons (excuses) not to do things all the time. And if we gave into them all the time we would all be leading a pretty miserable existence. But as we're all human we do give into them sometimes. But you're right that you can't let these thoughts rule over you.

I didn't put the full interaction in the post btw. When I said "I need to get back to work, I'm late already, can I take your number so I can contact you" She said "No, sorry, I'm with someone" I didn't catch the last bit so said "Sorry?" and she repeated "I'm with someone".

The tone (which I can't express here obviously) was quite clear that she was letting me down as gently as she could. She was enjoying the intention and thought I was a decent guy I think but wasn't open.

I've been ejecting too soon on previous ones and know this was to avoid disappointment but I realise I've got to get used to that eventually to progress.