The boyfriend isn’t all that important to me really, I guess the reason I got so wound up was because that's the second girl in a row I’d been on a date with, and she didn't let it slip til the last minute either... they just lap up the attention.

For me it is a simple question. Is she willing to fuck or not? I think I need to communication this more clearly to the girl, rather than tip-toeing into it and then getting stung. If she’s not down with the program she can then make that clear, early.