You're doing fine, don't worry. Don't fall into the trap of outcome dependence, (easier said than done) The more dates you go on, the more you'll self correct. Remember, you said she got lost in the moment and it felt she would come home with you. You probably realise that changing her mood and not her mind will open her legs for you. The best thing you can do in the interaction is concentrate on pumping up your own state, enjoying her. These aren't techniques but states of mind.

One more thing, 60% of the time you're not getting laid is because of random circumstances beyond your control! I would be proud of that date, well done!!