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Originally Posted by Jaz
You obviously have real core confidence issues, hence your fear of being alone and settling for whatever you can get.
It's not fair to take it out on this girl tho, she sounds nice. Don't be so fucking judgmental man, so she isn't Cheryl Coal, not many girls in this country are. I am willing to bet you aint Brad Pitt either so lay off on that one. All tho I'm all about banging hotties, when settling with someone I would tend to feel that looks are less of an issue anyway. It is hard to find someone you really connect with, so if you do and she makes you steak and gives you blowjobs - who cares if she's a 6.
At the end of the day, you have said it yourself - it just doesn't feel right. So please take my advice becuase this is really going to piss me off if you don't. End the relationship imminently. That poor girl has been wound up enough with your inner demons, she can and will find someone who isn't going to judge her and appreciate her for who she is. I'm telling you this because I feel sorry for her, not you. 20+ times of you fucking with her head is unforgivable, it sounds like she hasn't got any decent friends to tell her to fuck you off (I imagine if she did you would be on here crying about how to get her back).
Man the fuck up. Be honest and END IT.
From there you can bang all the tail you like, realize that it's just a distraction for you selfish ego and hopefully address the issues you seem to have. You never know you may well meet the one and I hope by that time you feel better about yourself.
And for the record. Fatties give the best head.
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Yes I have massive confidence issues, why else would I have ended up on a
PUA site in the first place. I somehow doubt anyone on here can honestly say they haven't had massive confidence issues in the past, I stress the word honestly.
You take the looks argument to the extreme there, I said in my first post I'm not exactly Brad Pitt, I am apparently good looking though (if also overweight). Life is very graded, if I'm being open again, I've been told by most of my friends and several of my family, that they are "surprised" I'm with her, take that how you will.
You feel sorry for her because I'm fucking with her head.. what by being honest about how I've been feeling?(except the last month), from telling her from the start that this is all a terrible idea, that I'll hurt her? The only thing I haven't been honest about is how I feel about her looks (this has changed as I've been loosing weight and she hasn't), there's no need to be a cunt. I haven't tried to break up with her to mess with her head, I'm not a cunt. I am however weak willed, hence my substance issues and the fact that she's managed to pull me back each time. I can't believe that she's managed to. I'm now in the situation where she's having a really really difficult time with a couple of other things at the moment, and I don't want to dump more shit on her.
Actually fuck it, whatever course of action I take here I'm going to end up being a bad guy, if I end it now it might push her over the edge, if I don't end it now it's going to keep tearing at me and probably make it worse in the long run.
I'm not actually interested in sleeping around, I did it a bit when I was younger and it left me feeling empty. Oh yeah and I know no-one has brought it up as yet, but I have NEVER cheated, been cheated on, but never cheated.
Oh yeah and amit, I see you thanked Jaz for that post. At least I'm not the kind of little fuckwit that'll cheat and not give a fuck how people feel. If I didn't give a fuck about her feelings I wouldn't be in this situation.
Anyway fuck it, release the lions!