Phil doesnt have this nailed because he is fucked up and cannot have a proper long term relationship due to fear
thats my observation

Alpha you feel like this because you have a low sense of value and you are insecure about yourself

When you commit to a relationship even if you have a normal sense of value-- everyone still feels slighly insecure at first, not knowing if the other person feels the same way about them and if they`ll get hurt etc but if you already have a low value and feel insecure it`ll be 100 times worse

you need to get out there-- rail laods and i mean LOADS of chicks to the stage were you really dont give a shit-- have a few month, 2 month, 3 month -6 month long relationships.

remember when you ar emotionally invested in a girl - YOU ARE THE MAN
she is with you because you are awesome, if she choses to not be with you or fuck you about - Shes over and there are LOADS of girls out there who are in need of your cock and awesomeness

also rather than being a needy bitch and saying crap to her thats gonna make her run away - bite your tongue and suck it in -- if she is going to fuck about then its better to sit back and let her hang herself with the slack you give her than try to depserately hold onto her and have her lie to you about stuff

ps the less needy and gay you are the more she will want your sperms inside her