Cheers for the advice smiles, I really think that's where I went wrong; after the k close I didn't act normal and so therefore made a really big deal out of it which I'm sure she felt and so therefore thought it was a big deal as well, I'm definitely gonna work on that.

amit one thing I've really seen that works when going for a k close is to always go for it mid kino, I know it sounds obvious but if your doing some kind of kino game or what ever and you have a hold of her hands, legs or any part of her body while you go for the close it really is alot easier, so get rid of all that 'do you want to kiss me shit' because at that point you will re-initiate kino by k closing when instead you should just go for it when your already touching (my favourite is to have her hands on top of your palms and to push them upwards so both of your finger tips are facing upwards and then interlock your hands together before going for it (really works)). hope this helps.