A man without ego is an incredibly attractive thing. Anyone watch Fedora lose the tennis today? The man's humility and lack of any anger, ill will and the like are very attractive.

Being a nice person is a good thing, provided you are not also a weak person. You don't have to react to badly to all things, just the things that matter. If someone isn't intentionally trying to bring you down then it really shouldn't. It says a lot about a person if they feel they need to either be defensive or offensive in any male-female social interaction. Just have sincere interactions instead.

Comes down to the idea of transcending the need to care about or participate in social games altogether in my opinion.