Granted, but it is not necessary to understand, and try to reduce, ego-based activity in order to be good with girls. Think about it - are any of the men who are naturally good with women seriously giving a fuck about whether they're coming from an ego-driven place? Pulling girls is simple - go and talk to her and if she's cool ask her out. At no point will worrying about anything, least of all ego, help you.

And my view on Tolle is unchanged. He is not a serious philosopher, just a bit of a hippie writing fairtrade pseudo-psychology. If you quoted him in a philosophy exam they'd tell you to get fucked.