Good grief gents!!! referenced arguments!!

Hopefully you can keep it non-personal - that is the most socially intelligent thing to do.

Some good answers on here though, interesting to read.

my quick take:

Arrogance - not a charactoristic that I want to develop. Not the person I want to be. Confident - yes. Arrogance in my opinion is low value, and is often men over-compensating (first no confidence, next arrogant, they zig-zag untill they find the right balance).

Internet game - not the best to become socially intelligent, and obviously not going to help calibration etc in field. Not for me now, but I don't want to judge (there could be some girls on there who never go out in-field - this is potentially promising).

I'll use canned openers sometimes. As swype said to me once - use what you want, don't let others push things on you. Given that his game is probably the tightest on here, I'm with him.

This forum has only a limited amount of expertise - I'd bear that in mind.