How does one draw a line between feeling/being awesome compared to being arrogant?

Who are we to judge just because a guy is:

1) outside the PU circle is a chode?
2) using canned openers are less socially awesome than the naturals?
3) an NLP'er is less successful? (although I think success is all relative)
4) less socially awesome because he is involved in online sarging? Or using dating sites?

Hopefully you get my drift.....! Im not having a dig, I just want to know you guys' opinion....!

Much Success!