If your ultimate goal is to enter into a relationship by playing the game (as many people do), then it would be wrong to try and establish a set of standard 'rules' on what to do when you enter a period of stability with someone. Once you've reached that sort of stage you've normally built a certain level of mutual understanding with the other person.

Trying to use a set of defined rules that someone else 'thinks' is the right method would be completely wrong. Your circumstances will be different to anyone else out there. My advice would be to just behave on instinct, keeping in mind the need to act in line with the persona you've conveyed to her.