this is an easy one, i used to fall foul of this.

make it an in joke with ur friends of how ur always getting blown out, so you joking with them,

then you can talk to women knowing the general consensus is u will fail... this means u have nothin to loose.

just make over the next few weeks jokes to ur mates,

Im always gettin blown out, its like 100 wats to blow snake eyes out.

and tell them a few,

then they have no expectations of you.

you understand they dont. learning to laf at ur own faliurs & tell people about them, allows u to let them go