Originally Posted by Refl3x

Its horses for courses. swings and roundabouts.

If you are chatting to a girl thats a control freak then being uber confident and owning her space with your arm round her might flag in her mind as get this fucker off me because she isnt in control of the interaction.

The same was and still is true with me, if a girl is suddenly all over me and i feel out of control an alarm would go off in my head and id bail or act weird..not so now btw

so in those cases a bit more of a cautious approach, even nervous would work

I think in the majority of cases tho confidence and owning them is the winner
i just need to do this a lot more