Hey guys,

I'd be really grateful for your help.

I'm such an AFC but I'm really trying to change. There's this one girl who I met who is literally perfect for me (although I know it's not good to think that way about a girl). We've spent a bit of time together (with mutual friends) and we get on so well. We're always flirting and she gives me really strong IOIs. I feel as though I've managed to build rapport and escalate quite well.

So then I went and did the most AFC thing ever, I literally said to her "I think you're really beautiful, I really want to kiss you". I gradually moved in to kiss her and although I didn't feel her really resisting me with her body language she did say "no".

So here's my question: Is it possible that she's just shy and not used to guys making a move on her? Or could it be some kind of shit test? Or of course I'm aware it might actually just mean no and she's just a flirty girl who loves the attention, although I haven't noticed her acting the same with other guys.

Thanks!

Andy