Basically you are rising to her shit, do your own thing set the marker, you are getting sucked into her reality.
You acted like a bit of a needy chode.
regarding hitting the guy, you should only go confront him if thats what YOU want to do, not because the girls moan at you about it.
If thats what you wanted, when they give you shit about it--say whatever, blow it off and be unaffected.
Just looks like you are getting slapped with shit tests/power struggles and being affected by it-- yes i totally understand when feelings are involved its fucking hard--i find myself reacting to stuff and getting needy about things even though i know its wrong for me to do this i just cant help it.
There is no such thing as control when you remain unnaffected, some girls will just eat you up until there is nothing left of you and you are their bitch, at that point they either keep you on and your life sucks or they chew you up and spit you out.
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Pretty rubbish weekend with the new ex bird. I went out with her, and her mate played gooseberry.
Use this to your advantage-- you go out somwhere you can eject as your gf wont be alone, chat to some sets, guys/gals - its important to people what their friends think of their boyfriend/girlfriend, get her friend to think you are ace, scored big points with your girlfriend if her friend thinks are you awesome
My bird told me that she was going to some party in another city the next night and she was going to stay over on a mate's setee, so we wouldn't see each other. I'd had a bit to drink so I got a bit pissed off about this.
I wanted you to stay with me..no? ok cool - get on your phone and arrange somthing with friends in front of her for the next night
Seeing as we were supposed to be a couple, if someone had invited me to a party I would have invited her too. I told her, "Fine, two can play at that game, the next time I'm going to a party I won't invite you."
affected, needy chode comment
Later in the night her mate wanted to go into some bar. We went in and there were at least ten men for every woman. I was annoyed, as I found the vibe lascivious but her mate loved it (of course she did). We argued about that too.
affected, needy chode comment - you could have been the man, you had the girls....
We left and went to another outdoor bar. There were two guys and one of them touched my bird's mate's arse. My bird complained to me about it so I went to have a word with him. Apparently I got a bit alpha with him and he jabbed me one in the nose. Immediately I dealt him a hefty haymaker to the eye nearly knocking him off his feet. That pretty much knocked the fight out of him.
You danced to her tune
Again my bird started to argue with me, saying, "Darling, I'm already attracted to you, you don't have to behave like that. Why do you always have to be the alpha male?" I said, "So why did you complain to me about him if you didn't want me to take action?"
shush, remain unnafected
I slept at hers that night and she was trying to be sweet with me but I was still pissed off about her just going off to parties whenever she feels like it.
she wants it all her own way and expects you to suck it up, one sided rules in play here-- solution....dont rise to it but do exactly the same to her--she`ll soon not like it and realise she has to stop
The following day I recieved a text from her saying, "Hey danny, you can't come to my house again and i am not sure about our relationship eather...and please don't think that this has anything to do with the fact that i'm going to cat(ania where the party is) to see my friends now.it is rather about your immature and exaggerated behaviour and different ways of seeing things/lack of understanding.So I just need some time to think it over and please don't call me now.let's speak when i'm back."
Suck you in yoyo style
I sent her one back saying, "Ok babe,I get it, don't worry.Lets just leave it at that.We tried.I have some very nice memories.No hard feelings.x"
Perfect responce yoyo denied
Later she sent me one saying, "Darling, i'm thinking of you, i have very nice memories too..x"
trying to open communication again
I sent her another message saying that if I did or said anything stupid it came from a place of love.
Since then, she has come back and sent me this message: Hey, thanks for your message, i really appeciate that and it made me happy to hear that, and i know u only had good intentions, so did i.But i just can't handle being in a proper relationship with u and i just needed a moment for myself. Maybe we can meet tomo after my salsa class? X
yoyo yoyo yoyo mutha fucker
I responded that I did not like the tone of "just can't handle being in a proper relationship with u", and I told her that I will not be her plaything.
Could have ignored it or your reply was just as good
I don't know what my next move should be. A few days ago she was crazy about me, telling me that she was in love with me and just wanted to spend all her time with me and now this bollocks. I want the control back. Any ideas??
Get out, enjoy yourself, chat to some girls-sarge -- dont do anything with them, its just a reminder to you that...girls...easy come...easy go
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You are being sucked into her world, she is rolling you back and forth like a yoyo
Unless you reamin unnaffected and just do your own thing this relationship will continue to become more and more unhealthy
YOU ARE THE MAN DONT EVER FORGET THAT