You showed massive insecurity when your girl told you about the party.

Correct answer instead of making an issue out of it might have been: "Cool, have an awesome time"

She complained to you about the grope, does not mean you knock him out. Make light of it, and give her a hug, tell her that only you're allowed to touch her sexy ass. Or something like that. Fighting him, only shows immaturity.

If you show rock solid confidence in the face of things like that, and display no insecurity she will love you for it. Going all needy and huffy for it, will make you lose control in the relationship and she'll go off you.

-Loke

I had problems with the mindset of Italian bird I was seeing exclusively last summer.

On a night out, a day after she'd said how much she liked me, she behaved in a hot-and-cold daft way over an issue which SHE herself had created, including her storming off.

Two days later, she sent me a text apologising for her behaviour.

Instead of me replying with an it's-OK no-problem reassuring nicey vibe (e.g. such as the text you used Midas which included "Ok babe,I get it, don't worry"), I huffed and puffed to decide upon the most enigmatic Rebus-like confident, terse and seemingly closed response.



After a think, I fired off a short text message response that simply read:

I cannot tolerate your petulance



From the feedback I got from her later (we got back together again), the enigmatic and terse nature of it went off like wildfire. When she received the text message, she even asked what the meaning of the word "petulance" was to the English person opposite her in the train! She fought to win me back (little did she know she didn't have to fight! Ha!)

These five words gave me back control.

I sent these five words with a risk of losing her -- I gave a shit, as still wanted to see her, but only an altered version of her who didn't have hot-and-cold daft explosive behaviour.

Sometimes, I know what the right answer is and Loke is right, but once feelings get involved it is much easier said than done.

Insecurities seem to be the side effect of passion.

Had it been before we had decided to go steady that's exactlly what my response would have been. It's like the song, "It's the good advice that you just can't take!"

He didn't touch her arse though he touched her mates and they both complained to me about it. Of course a good humoured approach would have been better though.

Pretty much Mad Fer It. I don't tell lies. I'm looking to improve this situation, so what would that serve me?

Tonight, I actually saw that dude that I went head to head with and we shook hands, laughed about it, and put it down to alcohol. If only it was that easy to sort arguments out with birds.

hate to drop you the news, but THAT GUY is now shagging your bird

Basically you are rising to her shit, do your own thing set the marker, you are getting sucked into her reality.

You acted like a bit of a needy chode.

regarding hitting the guy, you should only go confront him if thats what YOU want to do, not because the girls moan at you about it.
If thats what you wanted, when they give you shit about it--say whatever, blow it off and be unaffected.

Just looks like you are getting slapped with shit tests/power struggles and being affected by it-- yes i totally understand when feelings are involved its fucking hard--i find myself reacting to stuff and getting needy about things even though i know its wrong for me to do this i just cant help it.

There is no such thing as control when you remain unnaffected, some girls will just eat you up until there is nothing left of you and you are their bitch, at that point they either keep you on and your life sucks or they chew you up and spit you out.


You are being sucked into her world, she is rolling you back and forth like a yoyo

Unless you reamin unnaffected and just do your own thing this relationship will continue to become more and more unhealthy

YOU ARE THE MAN DONT EVER FORGET THAT

This is so annoying

let me tell u a story

my mates bird went lesbo, fucked him off after 14 years... he spent 3 months ringin chasin I LOVE YOU TAKE ME BACK

she treated him like a nob

he went ill in the head and was put in hospital for 10 days... facebook shut down, phone shut off all contact taken away, & nobody in his family would say where he was..

she went to bits coz she couldnt contact him...

as soon as he came out I WANT YOU BACK I MADE A MISTAKE.

validation is in any contact they have, remove the answers and create a loop..

loops cannot be ended in your own mind as the answers dont lie there...

go missing for 10 days!! remove facebook.. all contact midas...
and watch the power return

FACT