Personally I think if you (OP) are reading about all this stuff and it's making you see girls 'not as other people' but objects in 'the game' then you re kinda missing the point imo.

If you give a girl that grinds on you a twirl- it's not a wedding ring. You aren't commited to anything. You're just 'a guy' out having fun and not over thinking this shit.

If she's really rough then hey do it right and you'll look charitable. If she's anything more than that you just look like a fun to be around kinda guy. But if you cower away you might look like a creep that's afriad of human contact.

As for 'Pua Techniques' making things worse, remember that none of this shit is supposed to be a get out jail free card. All any of this kind of information can do is give you the tools to present your own real attributes and qualites in ways that's are going to be favourably regarded. Imo it's about taking control of the way others (male and female) perceive and evaluate you socially.

It's about aquiring the tools to put YOUR best foot forward. But it still has to be YOUR foot. You can't just rely on canned pua stuff. It takes two to tango and reading and reacting to her signals is just as important as your own shit. It's like Tennis rather than cricket. You have to hit the ball back not just rack up a load of runs till the over's over...

if that makes any sense?

Just my opinion of course.