First off it's a no-brainer that the girl is going to look dissapointing in real life compared to her best profile snap.

Secondly, take a girl to a place you want to go. If you like bars then do that, art galleries then do that, etc.

Third. You shouldn't be thinking about getting into state for a date. Sure get yourself fired up, but thinking that 'state' is holding back your kino is not the point. It is you who is holding yourself back from escalating for fear of rejection.