Hi Mark!

Showing some solidarity for you mate. I'm 37 and have only had 1 steady gf. Have a ton of books on self help and dvds from some of the best out there - David Deangelo, Hypnotica, David X, Swingcat and Mystery - but it's a very difficult thing to tackle without a group of like minded individuals around your own level to back you up.

It really is just all about confidence and self belief and not giving yourself a hard time. I'd recommend the books "The Power of Now" and "What to say when you talk to yourself" as a simple place to start. They're easy to read, relatively short, and make good sense.