Hey pal

I tried this with my ex girlfriend. We started out as friend's with benefits and I thought I could be cunning and allow her to develop feelings for me. I played the "What would you define as a relationship? Cos if you think about it, two people spending time with each other and being committed to one another is a relationship, so out of ease i'm just gonna say you're my girlfriend as its just a word and changes nothing" and she agreed.

However, she was saying she didn't want a relationship for a reason and that reason was mentally she wasn't prepared to commit and put the effort in required for a relationship to allow it to flourish and develop and was constantly conflicted. You'll set yourself up for a world full of hurt if you try and force her pal. We might be able to attract women and perhaps influence women, but we can't control their thoughts and feelings, at the end of the day, we're only human and not all powerful.