Silverhaez, how did that night go for u?

In my work Christmas party, I solved that issue -- #-closed a hottie who doesn't work on my floor. So the "shit where you eat" is avoided. Personally I was surprised there were so many hot women I hadn't even *seen* before at my company!

Flow (in general, not just in pick-up) is sometimes analysed as being something that one should be able to learn to state-shift / phase-shift into easily, a state that one can anchor (NLP theory). That's the theory, I just try to retrospectively analyse what I do or have done which coincided with getting into that state on the particular day or night. If it was possible to create a repeatable process around acheievment of "flow" (likely personal to you), then you could tap into it when needed!

One thing I find (in sports & PUA & in an area of my job & in a hobby I do) you don't get flow unless it's an area which you are very experienced in. Beginners do not get flow; by definition, the anxious newbie who also has minimal tactic knowledge of the task cannot achieve flow.