Nice post.

Sadly I find the alcohol a bit of a necessity too in terms of just melting that very first hurdle of self-confidence/social awareness.

I'm a fairly confident person naturally - at work, with friends etc, but being confident with girls in that sort of situation feels like (even if it isn't) a totally different game.

I'm going out for a big one tonight to an industry christmas party which has the double edge of being a: a nice opportunity to go and dance and socialise and flirt but b: full of people I already know. So flirting-wise, I don't want to piss on my own doorstep so to speak.

But I completely agree with the concept of being "in the flow" - when you're hot, you're hot and you know it and everyone else knows it. It's like a social proof power-up and you strike exactly the right balance of easy charm, cockiness, physical presence and confidence.

I find it has the best chance of occuring after 1 or 2 drinks. It's a shame I find it incredibly tricky not to keep drinking when out with friends.

Guess I'll see what comes of tonight?


Here's to "the flow".

SH