Hey dude,

Similar thing happened to me when i got back from holiday. Went out round Leeds and met this stunning girl, got on so well i went back to hers the same night. We arranged to meet up again on Tuesday. All i could think about was this girl. She ticked all my boxes. Like yourself i found myself thinking about her all the time. We went out Tuesday and had a cool time but i could sense something standoffish about her. I went back to hers again and we arranged to see each other on Sunday. Anyways Sunday rolled round, she txt me wanting to postpone.

From Tuesday to Sunday i kept getting the impression she just wasnt that interested. I told her it was cool to postpone but if im honest i dont think your (she) is interested. A few hours later she replies saying how cool it was to meet me but im right and shes not interested.

I was fucking gutted man, first girl in ages whose ticked all the right boxes and shes not interested.

I understand i invested too much too early and put too much value on it but honestly i couldnt give a fuck that i broke pua rules #4 & #9 section 13 or whatever. I had my desires went after them and it didnt work out for me.

I noticed you said 'I dont like her' in your mantra if this is true then this is cool but if its not and you do like her then dont lie to yourself man, thats supression, supression isnt healthy. What worked best for me was acceptance. I accept rightly or wrongly i felt a lot for this girl quite early on, i accept she has every right to not like me, i accept that she doesnt like me. Im also very gratefull for having met her and having spent time with her. I also accept that i have my own life to live and that she isnt going to be a part of it and i must now move on.

Since then iv moved on, im back to my old ways and everythings great. Theres flashes of course where i might think about this girl and everything i woulda shoulda coulda, but i just smile to myself about it and think philosophically about it now. In fact it was one of the best life lessons iv had since getting into this whole self improvement/development stuff.

'Failure is not the worst thing in the world. The very worst is not to try.' - Unknown