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Originally Posted by sapmi
Think about it, would an average guy who gets laid some of the time, and is generally happy with his life, want to join the pick up community? Realistically, a lot of us who have joined do seem to have problems with getting women.
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Of course we do. That's why we're here. The first step to solving a problem is admitting you have a problem in the first place, and being honest with yourself about it. By virtue of being here, we've all taken that first step.
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Originally Posted by sapmi
There are some main types of guys in this community.
Category 1) These guys have had some success, but are greedy bastards and want loads more - so are semi natural (K for example, and to some extend Swype)
2) Guys who have fucked up big time, making them slightly socially awkward and imbalanced when they first started (like me and Jeffy from RSD!)
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As has been said elsewhere, surely everyone who enters the community begins in Category 2. They improve and get better, and then find themselves in Category 1.
Lets not overuse those phrases though. The first person to utter the sentence 'He's a Cat 1
PUA' gets a slap from CO!
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Originally Posted by sapmi
My plans at the moment are:
1) Get my finances sorted (so I can do more of my plans)
2) Experience more new things
3) Push my boundaries
4) Try to push the importance of getting women down my priority list
5) Approach women (see the paradoxical idea here?)
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You don't have to have women as a high priority in order to approach more women.
You could, for example, walk everywhere thinking: 'I need a girl. That girl. Or that girl? What about that girl? I like that girl as well. Ok, lets approach that girl... Yep, that went ok. She was nice. Oooh, look at that other girl! And her friend! I really like her friend. Ok, lets approach her friend...'
Or you could walk everywhere thinking: 'What a lovely day. The shops aren't too busy today. I might make pasta carbonara for dinner. She's pretty, lets go say hi... Ye, that went ok. She was nice. Oooh, there's a concert in the park tomorrow. I wonder if CO would like to go and see some of the bands playing, hang on, I'll give him a ring...'
Its having the ability to switch off from women that is so valuable. I can't say I'm particularly good at this myself, something I'm working on. But you don't need to be constantly switched onto women in order to effectively approach them. Just be prepared to take the opportunity when it comes, and don't be consistently on the lookout for said opportunity.
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Originally Posted by sapmi
So for guys in category 2 - the rules are a little different
1) Drop all pickup theory (radical I know)
2) Learn basic social skills (eye contact, having NORMAL conversations with people)
3) Learn to be cool ultimately, you need to feel good about yourself all the time. You may think playing the Cornet is cool. Some people won't. Fuck them. If you genuinely feel you're doing cool things and leading a happy life, you're there.
4) APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPRO ACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,A PPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROA CH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH,APPROACH, Go out speak to people, be social. If they reject you, fuck them, it's not your problem.
5) Get in the habit of touching women, hugging, giving pecks on the cheek and look to escalate physically (OK, this is probably the only pickup theory you need to be aware of, no more)
Have fun
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100% spot on mate. Stick to this, and you won't go far wrong.
I especially like number 1...
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Originally Posted by Darood
Why would he know? He didnt even get to fuck Mary..
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LOL! I never thought of it quite like that...