so was out last night at a club and the plan was to hit loads of sets etc etc get out of my comfort zone etc etc basically wat i tell myself every time i go out but somethin that 90% of the time i never manage to do.. now the night started off pretty good i got there and was met with a lot of girl m8s i ended up sittin with about 5/6 of them and they were seated at a bar that only sold cocktails, this meant that there was an abundance of girls around and i had great value about myself and im pretty sure i cud of opened lots of sets and got great results, but again i questioned myself.. why? im having fun here with my girl m8s. i look pretty cool here maybe i shud just let the girls come to me. i want to have a few more drinks then i'll approach.. the excuses began and didnt really stop. i talked to a few girls on the way to the bar but nothing special. everytime i was think of goin to talk to a group of girls i cudnt think of wat to say, my usual , "u guys look fun are u friendly?" opener shud work in any situation but i kept tellin myself it wont, you'll look stupid, its so LOUD in here i wont be able to get a conversation going anyway...

then i noticed my brother he is a natural, he's a good looking guy, well dressed, athletic etc, his game knowldege is no were near mine but yet he literally just stood near the bar talking to a few of my m8s and these hot girls wud just approach him! thinking about it ive never seen him do a real cold approach.. he just stands there the girl looks at him, he makes eye contact and she comes to him 9/10 times, the other 1/10 he just walks up and says hello and he is pullin them 5 secs later..


so i realised that doing all these cold approaches in a club, they're very hard to really utilise, its very hard to talk and so using body language alone to attract is ur best bet.. plus it doesnt make u as fearful.. perhaps i am just making up excuses.. but its frustrating to watch my bro stand there do barely anything and get a hot girl, whilst i stand there maybe do a few approaches and am not getting the same results.. perhaps its just a way of not havin to do the approach..i never thot my AA was a problem ive opened 7 sets before, but when its very loud or wen im on my own i really do have a bad case of AA.

so anyway i may try this new tactic out..just stand and give eye contact, expect the girl to approach u as ur the prize.. all i need to do is give the correct body language. my brother did it so why cant i.

i really have had a realy knockdown in confidence lately and i dont no why..i think maybe a detox from using game may help me as im most likely thinking too much, just going more natural seems the cure like my brother..