I would be quite interested in hearing a couple of these competing arguments, if or when you have time. I'm also a little confused at the moment with regards to this subject. Although I still have very high value on the kind of love that is attainable in an exclusive relationship, and very much hope one day to experience it, since I have got involved in this community I have come to realise that this mind set was actually quite detrimental to myself. This thing that I believed in so strongly before, was actually just an insecure feeling, of wanting to feel more whole as a person, or whatever. Quite an eye opener!