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Originally Posted by kowalski
That sucks. With experience you’ll learn to read situations earlier as they have the same patterns. You’ll be able to tell with pretty good accuracy who is attracted, who isn’t and who is just trying to get free shit.
My advice is, if you aren’t certain make a move.
Actually make a move though. Hanging out then later texting “let’s hang out” is not a move. In this specific situation it is unlikely but I have been in situations where my not making a move has killed her attraction. You can’t do that. You gotta stop doing that, man.
Always make a move if you aren’t sure. Then you’ll have that as a reference experience that will help you to tell the difference in the future. If you feel odd when someone is talking to you, maybe they are lying. If you don’t find out whether they were or not you don’t know if that feeling means you are being lied to or not. Same with attraction.
Peace,
kowalski
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Thanks Kowalski for this! Those words really helped me man. I was a bit sad earlier but you know what, I've determined that I'm gonna go out everyday and just put the work in to getting good with women. My mindset now is 'I would much rather get rejected than not get the reference experience'.
I have set some goals:
At least 5 approaches a day.
From these 5 approaches, aim to have 3 conversations that last over 2 mins.
These long sets are where I grow the most.
Try to do at least one very scary approach.
Hopefully be December, I would have gone on some dates hopefully man
I went out today, did 7 approaches.
First one: Girl walking out of Tesco, as she walked out with her friend the alarm started ringing. I opened her with "Did you take something valuable" and went into a story about how something similar happened to me. It was ok, she was kinda shy and I ejected early.
Second one: Chinese girl, this was a pretty long conversation, I got her number but man I didn't eject from the set properly. Like we were in the grocery aisle shopping and talking. Then I foolishly went early to pay for my stuff and left her to go shopping. I paid for my stuff and I was in two minds:
Should I wait around cos the conversation was flowing and I got her number but didn't really say goodbye/maybe it could turn into an insta date?
Or should I just leave with a number from a conversation that was good but the number might flake.
In the end I was indecisive and I came off needy, I was at the door and she was kinda surprised and then I knew.... I had ffed up hahahahahahahaha
Asked her out over text, she didn't reply but I would be honestly surprised if she does reply.
Third one: English girl, Alison, she was pretty and was laughing at my jokes. I got nervous, talked fast and ejected early.
Fourth one: Chinese girl, no idea of name, she was alright but she told she had a boyfriend early. The conversation was actually flowing but she ended the conversation early. I moved on.
Fifth one: Black girl with a sickkkkkkkkkkkkk jacket. Honestly if I saw that jacket at a shop, I would buy it. I got talking to her but I wasn't that attracted so I ejected from the set.
Sixth and seventh ones: English girls, short sets and not much to write about them.
Yeah man, I went out and talked to some girls. Now the main thing is doing the same thing tomorrow.
Thanks guys and Kowalski for all the support, I deffo needed it. Upwards and onwards!
Tomorrow I will work on:
Talking slower and just being a bit more relaxed.
I will try do 20 mins meditation as well, did 10 mins today.