Bit of background;

So met this girl recently between Christmas and New Year in a bar whilst out with some mates, approach, interact, have many things in common, mutual attraction, number close. Smooth as you like. Transition onto phone/text game. All fine, set up day 2, day 2 turns to day 3.

Dates go fine, lots of fun, banter, flirting, kino, admittedly there's more sexual tension and energy on the day 2 than the day 3 as for some reason I revert back into my head and lack abit of belief. Anyway she seems keen, texting me everday, then begins emailing me after asking for my address so she can email me from work, opens up to me, is always the one to re-initiate contact and she wants to set-up further dates and make future plans for later dates of this last week. I am at this point abit freaked out because it's all seeming like she's abit 'over keen'.

Then, maybe this is purely coincidental or has some bearing who knows. She then shows up on my facebook as a friend request, I am reluctant to do this because I don't really know her all that well at this point. However I ask a friend about this he says 'just accept her' so I do.

Then the days after that, I hear nothing from her. I don't think too much of it then I get a text from her the afternoon prior to an arranged date that evening saying she would prefer to cancel due to the weather. 'Fair enough' I think, however find it slightly odd as she only lives a short walk from the venue we were due to meet.

Anyway we decide to re-arrange for Tuesday next week, she agrees. I leave it at that, then a couple of days later I then out of the blue get a text Friday saying;

Her: Hi. I'm not going to be able to make next week at all.

I sense somethings not quite right so I give her the option to back out if she's not feeling it and neither am I willing to solely wait until she has a free schedule so I say:

Me: Shame. Do you wanna just call it a day?

Her: Sos, sent you half a message. My friend moves to London next week so pretty much tied up with her until then. I enjoy spending time with you but not sure I have time in my life for anything more. (She works two jobs) Depends if your are looking for friendship or more than that.

Me: To be honest I think you're cool and ace and everything but I thought I was pretty clear with you that I wasn't looking for a serious relationship. Seems weird. (I don't mention the friends thing)

Her: Well if your happy being friends then so am I. I'm still up for hanging out with you if you are, just won't be til the week after now x.

Me: Ok, fine. This arrangement suits me perfectly!.

Her: Splendid x

Then she text me some inane jibber-jabber that I couldn't really care for after.

Obviously somewhere along the line I fucked up to get faced with this rejection. Talking to a friend about it, the same guy that advised me to accept her facebook request said 'Well mate, there is alot of pictures of you drunken with random girls and there are alot of girls posting on your facebook wall, maybe she didn't like that'.

I dunno,..... though it took an initial hit when I got the text, I was suprised at how hard my ego initially took it after being involved in this scene for a while now and as hard as I might the effort i've put in trying to 'shun' my ego.

I don't wish to over-analyze but thoughts, opinions and ideas of how I handled this or could have better handled it would be welcome.

If she is turns out to be sincere in being friends then I don't mind that, I genuinely do think she's cool and fun to be around. However im not going to start actively pursuing that, I'm just gonna leave it and not contact her, if she contacts me then fine. Last thing I want to be is an orbitor I have too much self-respect for that bull-shit.