Authenticity. For example, you said:
-I'm looking for sex... I might be open for something more serious after... but I am not looking for that

So why meet this girl?:
-her bio said "I have a kid so I am after serious stuff"


And if you were being authentic none of this could have happened:

-...it was... nice... I asked to meet again. She said she wasn't sure there was a spark or whether she wanted to be my girlfriend... and if...I was OK not to date other women we could have met again.


Peace,

kowalski