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Originally Posted by VibeSpreader
Ah mate, that's a well written story I feel most men have gone through a similar situation before. You seem to know where you went wrong already, although I'd add that it's generally best to pull the trigger on setting a date when the conversation is flowing, and to also ask 'what's you're schedule like for ____'. Deffo agree leaving it for a bit then banging once more before going for that would have been a good idea, i'm assuming you were both at least tipsy so she might not remember how much she like'd you at the time, or how good the sex was...
When she said "we can probably do that", next time you can make it into a joke, 'like how I can probably beat you in an arm wrestle, and you can probably beat me in a ____ contest'.
"Tough crowd" kills it!
So leave it a while and only re-engage with value texts and rebuild! Update if there is an update, goodluck
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Sorry for the late reply, I have an update.
She eventually replied after a few days. I replied two days after with the plain truth, "I loved hanging out with you, I had a great time. I would like to get to know you better, and if not, Im glad we met".
She eventually replied that she has been super busy at work and that we should meet. We did some small chatting for a few days and eventually met up again Thursday last week. I took her to a place were we played some shuffle and focused on rebuilding attraction due to the time elapsed. First time we met, I basically went to her place within the hour, and left early. So there was definitely not enough comfort built up before sex. She had buyers remorse. She even told me she wasn't sure on meeting me again. But she did, and I did some basic attraction and comfort building, and I ended up taking her to play some shuffle, some good wine, and we ended up at a piano bar on Thursday before going to her place.
I definitely know where I screwed up. Sex too early while wanting "more". Buyers remorse. Not enough comfort. So after Thursday she eventually invited me out with 4 of her girlfriends on Saturday. I "ignored" her the whole night and focused on winning her friends over. Stayed at her place on Saturday night and spent the whole Sunday with her. So things are going good.
Once I realized the problem after the first night, things got way easier. However, I was super lucky she decided to meet me again even though she had buyers remorse.
Ended well, and hopefully even better.