Thanks for the reply, was abit drunk last night lol, i think your right about using a rountine in that situation was impersonal, it was a mistake,and i have made that mistake before. I think i just failed to make a social or emotional connection, i didnt make her feel safe or secure. Telling me she had an 8 year old kid,it was said like she thought i wouldnt be interested in her with a 8 year old,i think it was related to not making her feel secure. Am also very good at playing it cool,not seeming to interested,which i think started as a defence mechanism,need to learn when to play it cool and when to show i want them.
I understand so well so many aspects of advanced game,learnt so much,but i think am failing at a basic level. I have been appoached before,and failed to keep hold of them.