What Shark said is good advice, especially for building a good rapport and establishing a connection - make a statement that reveals your personality a bit then encourage her to do the same. Example:

Me - My passion in life is music. I have music playing at every hour of the day in some form or another because it keeps me in touch with my creative side which is very important to me. What are you passionate about?

If you want some good reading material check out Juggler Method. This is his forte and I'm a big fan of his stuff (although the lads are probably sick to the back teeth of me bumming his teachings by now!)