I found a new wingman who is spiritual and honest like me we had a great time out together. He was supporting me and learning from me. I have a lot of theoretical knowledge because I have done this a lot in the past, but have a lot to learn and get better at.

So firstly I approached 7 women today, all of whom I found attractive.

1) Name: Natasha
Where: Shopping centre
What did I say: I just wanted to say you look really nice today. What's your
name

It was my first approach. I kind of froze after that. I hadn't warmed up the
1st 3 minutes of the conversation on my voice recorder. That makes a big
difference

Night time

2) Name: Emily and ??, 2 girls sitting in Pav tav straight ahead
What did I say: You guys look really interesting, so I thought I'll come up
and speak to you.
What happened: The girl I was attracted to was just giving 1 word answers
and had a massive scowl on her face. Emily the less attractive one was being
more open and talkative. But I was interested in the first girl. I just ended up
speaking to Emily as she was easier to talk to but I lost interest and just
wished them a good night.
Learnings:
(a) With a two set I need to take turns in asking questions to both the girls
and relating to the answers.
(b) I need to do the role playing exercise where two women/men give one
word answers and I relate and ask them questions. Its really hard to
continue giving one worded answers if you do the relating and
answering questions well.

3) Name: ?? and ??, another two set
How did I approach: You guys look really interesting, so I thought I'll come
up and speak to you.
What happened: Upon the approach one of the girls said we are taking a
selfie. I said no problem I will wait. Then I started talking
one of the girls sitting nearer me was friendlier than the
other one. Is it a mistake to speak to the friendlier one
more? Or should I engage both? Anyway, then in response
to Tell me a bit about yourself - What's your story? the
friendlier one said ... we both have boyfriends. And I left it
at that.
Learnings:
(a) I could have proceeded with good I'm glad you have boyfriends, I
get scared when a girl says she is single ... single girls are crazy I
keep away from them ...lol
(b) Or I could have said Congratulations! Let me tell you a bit about
myself. And then turned the question around and persisted with my
question to her.
With these girls since they weren't serious option (a) would have
been the better one.

(4) Name: ?? girl from Latvia in the One bar, joined by her friend soon after
What happened: I opened in the usual way, and then after getting her
name, I said you have an interesting accent. Where are you from? and then
couple of small questions. By then her friend had joined her and I hadn't
appreciated her as yet. My wingman came in late and she said do you mind
if we speak later. I tried to converse with her friend, but she repeated her
request and I wished her a good night.
Learnings: (a) I could have said "you have an interesting accent". What's
your story? to get a bigger commitment from her and liked
something about her from that.

(5) Name: ?? and ??, two girls in Bow Wow bar
What happened: I asked what's your story? And she started saying "Once
upon a time" I interrupted her and asked her "tell me a bit
about yourself". She just turned it around and said you
tell me a bit about yourself. Which I did. Then I asked
them a different question ... I should have persisted and
asked her about her self again
Learnings: (a) I could have let her complete her once upon a time story
been a bit more playful myself. And found something I
appreciated about her in that perhaps ...
(b) I should have persisted and asked her about her self again
(c) More engaging with "feelings" I perspective statements

Apart from the night out, I was with two friends earlier then they kept cracking jokes at each other, and saying stuff which was non-approval seeking. I want to do more of that. Also at work, a colleague of mine Nimrod keeps cracks jokes saying stuff which is also non-approval seeking. I want to become non-serious in my conversations.

(6) Name: Daniel
What happened: She kept asking me deep philosophical questions. I played
along and asked her a question back. I appreciated something she said.
She was angry and irritated about something. I left her alone as she was in
a negative space.

(7) Name: ??
What happened:She had come down from Edinburah for a hen party. Was
friendly. Works in HR. Married and has a nine month old kid. Tried to
introduce myself to her friend Joe. Was short. There was a tall chair in the
middle.
Lessons: Could have said "let me remove this chair" and removed the chair

Conclusion:
(1) I found a new wing in Alex
(2) I made 7 approaches today which is a new high for me which is
amazing!!
(3) I approached 4 two sets which is really hard!! Well done me!!

Actions
(1) Improve my I perspectives to include feeling and do solid noun
relating to break through the defences.
(2) Rehearse day game - stopping someone walking fast and slow, and
walking past me.