Oh man. Seems frustrating.

The truth: Women can smell damaged men from a mile away.

We might give you a chance by trying to connect to the authentic "you". Especially if we have succeeded in building good relationships with damaged men before.

But when you are confused, or dissociating, or don't know who you are, or are calculating and meta-everything, we feel something is "off". Yeah you can fool us when we are desperate enough to believe in fairytales. But with high quality women - with options - you'll find yourself becoming increasingly frustrated, because your tactics don't work anymore! You'll only be able to attract desperate and profoundly damaged women without an own "self", who are so messed up they only serve as an "echo" to the men they meet.
Healthy women will feel something is off, and either call you on it ("fighting", "discussions") or run away.

What do you want deep down? What are you scared of?