Everyone is talking about physical escalation here when actually i think its both personality AND Physical escalation.

A guy who is forward not only touches the girl but also teases her, Questions everything she thinks is interesting, And makes light fun of her little flaws (with a smile obviously) Basically banter!

If your personality isnt matching with your escalation, maybe thats why theres no spark.

On top of that start to not give a fuck about the outcome.

questioning as in disagreeing, she raises an interest and you spike her interest by telling her what your thoughts are

How was the siesta... lucky fuck.

Wish i could sleep in the day

Now we are talking about siestas, hahaha.

You are right, though. Internet chat is not 'real life' so I can come across as the funniest, most witty person ever on the internet but come across completely differently in reality. My entire 'game' at the moment is based on this and that needs to change.

If she comes round, she's clearly attracted to the person she has been chatting to online. If, like I say, that person isn't the same as the person she thinks, then of course there'll be no spark.

I've done a lot of reflecting... it's time now to work on my actual personable abilities, like conversation. Was listening to some cool PUA stuff earlier. I've managed to get away with what I've got away with thus far, purely by luck / being attractive / both being drunk. However I've identified a HUGE deficiency in how I come across so it's time to address it. More human contact, less internet bullshit.

I'm currently looking at

- how to escalate
- kino
- conversation, flirting
- body language

Most importantly, I'm getting some human practice in.

Does anyone have anything else they could recommend? Any particular PUAs?

Thanks!

Oh man. Seems frustrating.

The truth: Women can smell damaged men from a mile away.

We might give you a chance by trying to connect to the authentic "you". Especially if we have succeeded in building good relationships with damaged men before.

But when you are confused, or dissociating, or don't know who you are, or are calculating and meta-everything, we feel something is "off". Yeah you can fool us when we are desperate enough to believe in fairytales. But with high quality women - with options - you'll find yourself becoming increasingly frustrated, because your tactics don't work anymore! You'll only be able to attract desperate and profoundly damaged women without an own "self", who are so messed up they only serve as an "echo" to the men they meet.
Healthy women will feel something is off, and either call you on it ("fighting", "discussions") or run away.

What do you want deep down? What are you scared of?

Healthy women. Lol.


Peace,

kowalski