Thanks for the time to read and offer your opinion mate. I hate to say it but, retrospectively, I see your points and totally agree. I was being consumed on tactic rather than essence.

i think I also got into the stupid mindset that we have a long night ahead and thought best to go slow

As you might have already guessed, later on at the club things had already died off-she looked less interested, not able to talk much due to noise&area restrictions..etc..so basically game over.

as those chances dont appear too often, feeling quite low now