I think you need to take a step back mate. I'd forget about both of them man, the 9.5 obviously isnt very faithful and it clearly doesnt work with you and your ex. This might be an unpopular comment but if you're looking for a relationship you shouldn't fuck girls around. Its cool that your honest but you shouldn't mess girls about, or mess yourself about. Just be honest, let girls know what you want from them (careful cos there is alot of bad ways to do this).