This sums it up, 23 is incredibly young, you can generally choose your long term career a lot later if you want to do other things no need to put your own restrictions on life. My comment was one which comes from personal experience as I spent 18-22 living abroad working in tourist resorts, as I liked people and wanted lots of casual sex at the time, now I'm in in different place (met a nice girl an all that jazz), but my job choice was right for me at the time and has lead to lots of fantastic unpredicted opportunities, experiences and revaltions about what I actually want from life. I also slept wih lots of collegue's and it was fine as long as your upfront and not weird about it.

Yeah, at the moment I'm going down the road of managing my lifestyle in a way that I don't have to do so many cold approachs. If you can be constantly meeting people in a mutual environment you always have things to talk about and it flows naturally.

Incidentally, I had two dates today from doing this. The first was the Spanish chick that I met through the international community/Erasmus/English conversation group that I am always involved in. She rang me this morning to ask me if I wanted to go to the beach with her.

I took her on my scooter, which is great for kino. Seriously, get a scooter or a motorbike; the bird will have her arms wrapped around your back and you can place your hand on her knee each time you get to a traffic light ;-).

It was a pretty fun day at the beach. I ran for 45 minutes and got sunburnt, so she was rubbing after sun all over my back. Then I sat and meditated for 15 minutes as the waves broke on the shore.

After this, I took her for a ride into an abandoned village up in the mountains and we climbed into a disused villa. I felt like bending her over the balcony and just giving her one, whilst admiring the fantastic view of the valley below. However, I resisted as she has a bf... if she makes the first move though it could still happen. It once did but she told me about the bf AFTER.

Later, I had to meet some Italian girl for a language exchange, which is an hour of English for an hour of Italian. You can do them anywhere, also in England, here is the website Conversation Exchange - Language learning with native speakers. It's basically a blind date.

Anyway, she was quite cute and with a pretty hot body and we went for a couple of drinks. I always take them to this really chilled out bar with books in it and comfy sofas.

The kino was on; I had one hand on her knee and another on her back most of the time. She seemed prety keen, loads of IOIs. When I went in for the kiss though she got all Italian and started saying she was not used to kissing people she didn't know.

It's all cool though because I will just ride that silly nonsense out for the next date or whatever and then just take her back to mine and fuck her brains out and probablly come in her mouth or some shit like that .

I have another American couchsurfer chick coming to stay with me in a couple of weeks. Americans are so easy, it's like taking candy from a baby. She is 19 and I am 34 would that be really bad of me??

No
as long as you dont feel like you are taking advantage

wicked, I have a Polish girl coming to stay with me for a few days, tomorrow. In her message she wrote she wants to meet local men I'm not local but that sounds like she's game.

Hey Reflex, I've been pondering how to word this without it sounding like I'm trying to call you out on something. I mean it with no disrespect at all and genuinely seek an answer.

Are you able to define "taking advantage"? Is it simply the fact that someone is easier than others? Why is it consistently regarded as a bad thing?

I have my own opinions on this but would like to hear other views with regards to it.

derp. you've regressed mentally since the age of 23? Mate don't compare yourself to me you're one of the biggest dumbs I've ever come across.

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What's this guy's issue, beta-male complex? King of the nay-sayers. I wouldn't say Phil was dumb. He might not be Shakespeare, but he certainly isn't dumb.

Out of all pickup material I've ever seen, Phil's is the most accurate written account of natural game. And he points out regularly that scripted material and trickery is shit. And he applies his own methods.