Firstly, I’d like to thank the community – so far it has been fun and interesting, and I’ve started to see some nice successes. This hasn’t just been sex with shallow, dull women, but unique and genuinely special moments on a number of levels.

This forum has also been great too – the first time I’ve experienced an internet forum without being put off by continual vitriolic and pedantic sarcasm.

Deep stuff – not what I was expecting when I first saw some of Mystery’s openers!!

I still have a long way to go, but am hoping to keep stumbling in the right direction.

I have a few stumbling blocks that I thought I’d open for advice on…

Sunday – I pencilled in three day 2s (for logistical reasons this seemed logical to me – quite tiring though).

1- Nice interaction and a kiss-close – very happy here;
2- Not my cup of tea in the daylight– interesting chat nonetheless;
3- She had very closed body language, and this intrigued me. Was she not interested? Perhaps, but her body language was conflicted, and there were IOIs. I wasn’t keen to go for kino with no kino in return. I wonder how you guys would approach this – kino is not my strong point. Who knows, perhaps when I see her again she will relax more. My plan is to keep my frame up, and see where the journey takes me. I spoke to her about her body language – she didn’t realise she was coming across as closed.

Stumbling block 1:

Where the lady has closed body language, but you are attracted and intrigued!

Stumbling block 2:

I’m really conscious not to mess any women around, or upset them unnecessarily. A long-term relationship isn’t for me at the minute. In the past I have often slipped into a relationship – I don’t want this to happen. Honestly is the best policy?

I’m seeing a girl now, and she gives me the impression (like many women do) that she seeks commitment. If this is always the case, then will I always upset women by leaving?.... hmm.. I guess the move to friendship means that I have not ‘left’ – and perhaps by reframing women also want interesting experiences – not just long-term relationships. Anyone have any thoughts on this at all?...

Cheers all,

Anthony

My $0.02:
As you said mate, honesty is the best policy. I have done this on a few occassions and played along with it when I should be honest and just said I wasnt interested in a committment. My advice is as soon as you realise that the "friendship" is heading into a full blown relationship, it's better to pull away...! You gonna hurt the girl one way or the other but its better sooner rather than later...! Good luck!

Btw, in the one time we hung out, I thot u are a very cool guy, keep it up buddy!!

Much Success!!

Cheers for the quick responses fellas. I think I'm gonna do some serious thinking (and, if i can find anything, reading) about point 2. If I have any useful thoughts I’ll pass them on.

If any other community people have any feedback that would be great – you guys must be battling with this too, right?

Who knows what I want… The inner turmoil! Ignorant friends of mine just ignore the girls after a while – cut communication. This ain’t cricket in my opinion. Ignorance of ignorance!

With q 1) – I will see how it pans out – if anything interesting happens I’ll let you know.

Anthony

Quick response to point one ... Just get across the awsomeness of you and she will open up dnt worry .

As for messing the girls about , im in a very similar situation , im seeing 3 women at the moment and i do quite like all 3 of them but i dont want to mess any of them around . The only advice anyone can give really is just roll with the punches , see how you feel about them and if you at any point decide they're not for you , make it known asap . If your honest and upfront , they may be upset but you've done the right thing . Better that than lying to them and making it worse ...

Keep us posted on this as being in the same boat i rekon we can help each other out on this one