The whole reason the pickup community started was because men in recent times have been as David D would say transformed into "wussies"
Grown men are always afraid to approach sexy women because they don't know what to say, and they are afraid to communicate sexual interest to a woman. Why would an adult man really be afraid to communicate sexual interest to a woman? Why do men fear the approach? Is it really genetic like Mystery says? Thats one theory, but I don't think it really hits the nail on the head. I believe there is an even bigger issue that people don't often discuss, and more importantly I don't think fear of the approach is genetic. At least not entireley.

I think men are supposed to feel excited when they see women. Every man has this feeling. When we see an attractive woman we are supposed to feel an amazing feeling inside and that feeling is actually what drives us to approach her no matter what gets in our way often with the intention of fucking her brains out as soon as possible.

This is the natural feeling that men are supposed to have, but where do all the crazy fears come from? Why do we think she will call us a creep or a loser if we express sexual interest in her? Why are men afraid to tell girls we like them or ask for their numbers or ask them out? Why do men think that they need to somehow slip in under the radar undetected in order to get sex from a woman?

The reason is because men are socially conditioned to fear their sexuality. They are told that its rude and disgusting to be a man. From an early age the message that communicating sexual interest to a woman is bad is crammed down our throats again and again. We are told women hate men who hit on them. We are told men who want a woman for her body are pigs. We are taught to be sticky sweet and nice to women. We think its bad to show manly interest. We are told girls might think we are a creepy, perverted sexual predator if we approach them.

Of course non of this bullshit is really true! In fact the exact opposite is true. Women are actually quite arroused when a man can approach her and communicate sexual interest immediately with no fear or hesitation. I know from experience. They love it when men are attracted to their body, and they want a man to be a REAL man and not be afraid of showing interest.

What they aren't attracted to is a man with repressed sexual desires and all kinds of insecurities about interacting with women and communicating interest. Women are creeped out by guys who try to be sweet and nice to them to trick them into having sex. They hate when guys approach them with some rediculous excuse to talk to them when they are obviously sexually interested in them. They can SENSE that guys are AFRAID to tell them that they are sexually interested and they don't like it! Women don't like the creepy guy who tries to weazel around and fein disinterest to get up her skirt. It freaks them the fuck out the moment they find out you are sceeming to get them and that you are insecure about telling them you like them.

Guys need to wake up and realize that they have been conditioned to fear approaching women by society, and that they need to feel secure about their sexuality, and not be afraid that it is creepy or dangerous.

this has struck a chord with me man, Its like you've explained the meening of life to me

good post!

We're designed to be hunters and we're in a society of shopping. There's nothing to kill anymore, there's nothing to fight, nothing to overcome, nothing to explore. In that societal emasculation this everyman is created. ~David Fincher, director of Fight Club

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98LeL...=related&pos=1

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Great article. A controversial opinion on the source of anxiety no doubt but you may be on to something. Never underestimate the power of social conditioning.

I agree with you to a large degree.

One thing that I definitely don't agree with is imagining the girl to be less than she is in order to have the confidence to talk to her.

Why do we have to reduce someone before we can be comfortable with them?

As far as Mystery and his theories are concerned... I think as soon as anyone gets comfortable enough to start talking to women this method must be ABANDONED.

Sleeping with women is real life and there is no method that will protect you from reality.

And besides Mystery has always said "It's about building a life...".

But I digress...

Yes, being a sexual man is not just attractive it's very powerful. It works better than any DHV you can put in your conversation. I know that from experience too.

I actually have a pretty good example of this!
One of my earliest memories at school was me chasing this girl that I really fancied. I think we were playing kiss catch or something, and a teacher from the school grabbed hold of me and gave me a right telling off! I can't remember exactly what she said to me that day, but I do remember the humiliation that I felt in front of all the other kids, and I remember feeling like I had done something really bad! Its funny cos I'd completely forgot about this until I read your post, and I have realised that this feeling has been with me my whole life! Fucking bitch!!!