rejection
I was watching a you tube video about rejection. Basically it was a guy running around London doing day game and getting blown out. Its just, when he got burnt out the look on his face was so bad. :cry:
The fact is, this guy was a profession pick up artist with his own dating boot camp. I can understand going though that much emotion hurt for money, but doing it for fun is insane. THE QUESTION What is the best way to handle rejection? -For me I prefer to laugh at the girl. It may be a fake laugh, but I try to adopt an emotion state that this girl is crazy and suffers from an antisocial behavioural disorder. The main thing is to not believe it is my fault or has anything to do with my appearance. Then I move on and open another set. |
What he said ^.
Laughing at someone because they don't want to get to know you is a pretty immature response. Just smile & move on - that's just life for you. |
This is the video I watched, this type of rejection. When she just doesn't want to talk.
I always use indirect openers. There is less pressure on her and me. I've heard loads of people complaining when they meet someone who is; too quite or socially awkward. Laughing at her, as if what she just said is funny. Is not that bad. acting like her response is just surprising and different. Is not rude, my emotional state is light hearted. I have never been aggressive towards her or any other girl. The problem is, if I don't blame her I blame myself. I will start thinking it's my fault. Maybe I have been rejected because there is issues with my appearance. Which will in turn cause me to not approach any other girl, until I fix this fictional problem. Which never happens, because it doesn't exist. I've met loads of wing men from a different forum, and the truth is, I honestly believe the reason they turn up for one night and then disappear forever. Is because they blame themselves for the fact she didn't want to talk. |
Instead of looking for people to "blame" about whether its her fault of your fault, think of it this way instead:
Maybe shes' a lesbian Maybe she prefers fat men Maybe she doesn't like fat men Maybe she prefers tall men Maybe she prefers short men Maybe she's married Maybe she has a boyfriend Maybe she just had a break up and is happy being single Maybe she just isn't looking right now Maybe she had a fall out with a friend Maybe she just wants to have a good time with her friends & not be pestered by giys There are a very large amountof factors as to why she isn't interested, some of them are related to you but many of them may not be. As i said in the above post, why not just accept that this is life, smile and move on? Let it go. |
What I mean is laughing is my ideal response, I do smile and as well. Any reaction that doesn't look or feel like being blown out is affecting me.
I always tell myself it's not my fault and move on. |
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I do want to add that I never meant to hurt those girls that I laughed at, when I got rejected. Now you're making me feel really bad. |
You deal with it hurts not caring. If she was rude and you weren't the you can give her some ahit
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"smile and move on" :smokin: |
If a girl is being rude you should walk off. That's probably the best and most effective course of action for your 'state' and time efficiency.
However it is the least fun. |
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I'm going to stick to my original game plan; what I have always done.
If she is just not interested, then I will smile and walk away. If she is being rude and blatantly berating me, then I will laugh in her face and walk away. what I don't want to do is give her shit back or become aggressive towards her. I don't want to lower my self to her standards. |
For me the best thing is to have empathy and put themselves in their shoes.
Their not necessarily rejecting you, just your idea or approach at times. I mean you're an unknown guy. Plus women have more to worry about than a man initially. As the smallest of men could physically dominate most women. So realizing their situation helps to take a little sting off it. Emphathaszing and even using a statement of empathy helps in approaching. As prefacing "I know this seems really random". Which shows you are considering their perspective as well and looking for more win / win situations in life. |
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