Conveying your identity is one of the most overlooked parts of meeting and attracting women, and there’s two main reasons for this. First, guys are so overconcerned with trying to be cool and funny that they forget to paint a picture of who they are and what they stand for. Second, some guys don’t even know who they are and what they stand for, consequently they’re incapable of showing it.

Trying to attract and connect with women without projecting who you are is like trying to go rowing without a paddle, or trying to go fishing without a fishing rod. Something integral is missing from the operation.

In order to build a really solid emotional connection with a woman it’s best to get her to open up and reveal herself to you. In order to get her to do this it’s important for you to be able to open up also, and reveal yourself. This is when you need to convey your identity.

Commonly, I might ask a girl deep questions like, “what’s your passion in life?”, “where do you see yourself in five years time?”. And sometimes, she isn’t ready to open up straight away or she can’t think of exactly what to say. At this point I open up about myself and tell her about my passions and my ambitions for the future. These are topics on which I can talk at length, and really paint a picture about the kind of human being I am.

Sometimes I will go back as far as some of my childhood experiences and talk about how they shaped later events in my life and how I became the person I am today. Consequently, women will feel they know me very well and be confident to open up about themselves. It is during these moments that you can really build a connection with someone because you begin share things that are more than just superficial. However, without conveying your identity it is very difficult for this to happen.

So, before you go on another journey out of the house trying to meet, attract and connect with women, ask your self “who am I?”. If you cant answer any of the following questions comprehensively you’re going to have to trouble, not just with women, but in life:

-What is your passion? What is the one thing you love to do?

-What are your ambitions? What do you hope to achieve in life?

-What do you value most in your life?

-What experiences shaped your current values and beliefs?

When you can answer all of these questions at length and you acquire the social skill to paint a really clear picture of who you are then you’ll notice something changes in your relationships. When women who you interact with see how clear your sense of identity is they’ll begin to qualify themselves to you, in other words, they’ll begin to demonstrate ways in which they match up to who you are and what you believe in.

When this begins to happen you will have completely transcended the guy who “tries” to impress girls and instead you’ll have become the kind of man that girls try to impress. That’s when you know you’ve hit the jackpot ;-)

Nice post - again - Halcyon. This topic comes up in many different forms very often, from interaction to failing to make D2's and you post contains a part of the answer; making a real connection with a girl. If you make a genuine connection with a girl she will open up to you a lot more, you will greatly increase your chance of a K-close or even a F-close and definately make you stand out in her mind when you contact her regarding a D2. And what you have discussed is a very good way of making that conenction and making her feel comfortable with you...this will allow her to open up to you and start to lower her bitch shield. An important part of Gaming to be learnt here :-)

This is possibly my single biggest mistake when number closing girls who later flaked. Being unafraid to tell a girl about yourself is going to be attractive to her. It shows you have nothing to hide and are willing to get to know her as well as letting her get to know about you. While you can go deep and tell stories from your childhood etc, this is not always necessary. You can talk about something you did that week or something related to your initial conversation. Don't feel you have to change the subject for the sake of it.

Just showing a willingness to not hide behind the facade of a 'cool' player image is enough to demonstrate your real character and begin to generate real attraction.