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As some of you know I'm currently in a relationship so I thought I post something about it and share some advice pyromaniak sent me in a PM (hope you don't mind dude). Some of it also applies to picking up women too and some of you are here to find a relationship.

I'm not saying I'm a relationship master but even though this forum is mainly concerned with picking up girls at some point you might find a girl you want to embark on a serious relationship with, so I thought I'd start a thread.

pyromaniak's advice

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Originally Posted by pyromaniak

I've found with the 1itis story that most chicks dont know what they want which is why trying to find out what is will never get you any where.
as soon as you starting thinking , no , knowing that you are exactly what she wants she will start believing the same thing.

The thing is you have to have a strong enough belief in this to convince her to invest her wants in you (making her know what she wants)

I found the best way to do this is to be completely sincere to her and even myself which in the end is actually the easiest because it takes effort to put on a act.

I'm not saying discard all the pua stuff cuz all that makes everything awesome and fun!
in the end alot of a relationship is game which playing them is fun and its the best ever playing it with someone you love

it took me two years to come to this understanding
hahaha fuck what a tit!

I don't advise marrying the first girl you successfully hook up with, I used to end up in relationships with the first girl that came along. Although it is possible to find someone awesome straight off, be picky.

With the current Mrs there was a point where I was worrying if this was what I really wanted, was I just in this for the sex and was she really into me?

So I just started talking to her about loads of random things not really caring, thinking or screening what I was saying we talked about history, science, atheism, beliefs and exes. She said It was really interesting and wasn't sure why I was with her because she thought she wasn't that interesting (she is though).

It's funny to find that people are not thinking about you but what you think of them, unless you're being creepy and weird. We really clicked after this too or maybe it was that I knew I had found someone I could just speak my mind with, she also likes Mogwai too :D www.myspace.com/mogwai

I guess the key is to banish self doubt and be confident in yourself, what you say and what you believe.

In terms of PUA stuff the RSD stuff (make stuff fun for you, not seeking approval etc) and K, Jynx and Swype telling me not to think just say whatever, also applies to relationships too.
If this does all go wrong I know I've got the skills to go out and find more women, which I think actually helps in a relationship too.

I've also found that quite a few women I've been with have had bad things happen to them, I'm not talking about just getting dumped, I mean things you wouldn't wish upon anyone.
Even though things don't work out in the long run you can still be a force for good, you just listening and being there helps.

Anyway hopes this helps people and I'll still come out with you guys but just won't be after any action.

I'll be out this weekend....

If the Mrs lets me ;)