Thanks for the advice guys. I'll give you a little more context. Broke up with my ex at Xmas it was messy and along with loosing my job and a general feeling of worthlessness I went proper suicidal. Rather than ending it I contacted the therapist I knew and I was talking to her within 24 hours. On the Hamilton scale I came out as severe to extremely depressed. I have continued therapy but this is more addressing issues from childhood and not depression.
To get some new perspective and beat depression I have ~
Been travelling to Asia, stayed in hostels thus forcing myself into social situations
I've always been a gym goer but being out of work has allowed me to hit it hard. I'm 31 but I am definitely in the best physical shape of my life
Got a new job that has fell in line with my career aspirations
Signed a rental agreement for a property in an area I've wanted to live since I was a boy
Basically anything that my head was telling me not to do in a depressed stated e.g. Not getting out of bed, not seeing friends, not going out at all, I've done the opposite and forced myself to do it.
My last depression test was a few weeks ago and I came out at 14 which means mildly depressed and I feel even better now than I did then.
Bottom line I love life, and I am massively proud of what I've achieved these last few months. The ex I slept with is someone I have a great friendship with but no feelings for whatsoever (she is not the ex from the recent breakup), she was a friend 10 years before I went out with her, it didn't work as bf and gf so we went back to being friends. This isn't affecting me.
As I say I'm confused as I've dated several girls recently all bar one of them approached me which has never happened before!! Normally I'd want to sleep with them all or just go out and fuck anything but I don't.... Other then this one cool girl I'm dating (she's the one I approached and whom I get on with most). I'm switched on enough to know this could snowball mentally.
In the same way I'm winning the battle against depression (I won't say I've beat it until I've gone 6 months without feeling like my world is caving in, I'm half way there) i intend to beat this. I'll initiate sex knowing full well it's the most enjoyable thing when 2 peeps are in tune with other, and remembering that I'm a great sexual partner...I will have Viagra as back up just in case and for fun as well
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