Appearances, and other's opinions
Is it normal for me to like a girl and think she's attractive, but still be hesitant about getting serious with her because she doesn't look like a drop dead gorgeous model and it sort of bothers me what others will think?
Am I shallow? How can I get out of this mindframe? Is it down to social conditioning? |
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i wont have a GF unless she is fit! i refuse to lower my own value by walking around with an ugly girl. i am shallow, but i also think im worth an uber fit girl do u honestly wanna have a GF whilst ur lusting after others & wishing she was fitter??? defo not |
I agree with what Phil said - if you will be lusting after other women it's probably pointless!
I have found sometimes that a girls personality will push her looks up. So a 7 with an amazing personality becomes and 8! I seriously hardly ever call a girl a 10, only 9s - they become a 10 if they have an awesome personality. I wouldn't feel shallow or beat yourself up! I'd just keep her as a good mate or friends with benefits. I need the whole package to get serious and probably so does everyone else... that's just my tuppence worth |
Have been thinking about this with my mate.
After several months of only going for hot girls (unsuccessfully) you end up in a bad place with all that failure. Yet when I flirt with less hot girls I have a great night, they are friendly approachable, usually have decent personalities. So I've decided to only go for the less hot ones this week. May write a Field Report |
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and as we know women being self depricating... they could never imagine its is you thinking your a 10 aswell.... but that she is whatever number u r |
right im gonna play the race card here!
I love dating girls other than white english girls. Russians, Czechs, Polish, Chinese, Columbian, black, Indian, Pakistani now when i am out and about with one, namely ones that obviously are a different race to me i feel akward being seen out -- with black girls, chinese, asians, etc feel that people are looking at me and this is going to sound horrible and actually pretty racist - i feel like it lowers my value because on face value it 'looks' like i cant get myself a nice white english girl and instead am out with a chinese girl who looks a bit like a mail order bride or somthing (even though she is stunning) -- i do notice people look at me. When i dated a pakistani girl she was the one that actually told me i needed to be prepared to be stared at when we were out together. as ive dated more 'differnt' girls it bothers me less and less now - last night i was out on a date with a girl origionally from Sudan - camebridge educated and had a PHD in Sports psychology - i realised i am less bothered now being seen out with different girls the fact of the matter is i just dont particularily like white english girls, sexually and from a relationship point of view |
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Al_phaD Don't think it is a case of "lowering my standards" Just being open minded and changing my priorities of what I find attractive. I'm simply saying "this week I'm going to judge girls on their personalities" I reckon it'll make for a more enjoyable night out I live in a small town and the hotter girls still have that "I'm the hottest girl in school" kind of vibe. And to (mis)quote Aliens (because everything in life can be distilled to a quote from Aliens) "Girl got a corncob up her ass" |
Hmmmm....
There seem to be two schools of thought on this... I'm fucking staying single its easier |
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I would like to hear more of 'said' Aliens quotes? I would also like to rate this against Arnie Quotes |
No worries.
Pick a situation and I'll "Aliens" it up |
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