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Default Appearances, and other's opinions - 18-09-2011, 10:17 AM

Is it normal for me to like a girl and think she's attractive, but still be hesitant about getting serious with her because she doesn't look like a drop dead gorgeous model and it sort of bothers me what others will think?

Am I shallow?
How can I get out of this mindframe?
Is it down to social conditioning?
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Default 18-09-2011, 10:32 AM

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Is it normal for me to like a girl and think she's attractive, but still be hesitant about getting serious with her because she doesn't look like a drop dead gorgeous model and it sort of bothers me what others will think?

Am I shallow?
How can I get out of this mindframe?
Is it down to social conditioning?

i wont have a GF unless she is fit! i refuse to lower my own value by walking around with an ugly girl.

i am shallow, but i also think im worth an uber fit girl

do u honestly wanna have a GF whilst ur lusting after others & wishing she was fitter???

defo not


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Default 18-09-2011, 11:13 AM

I agree with what Phil said - if you will be lusting after other women it's probably pointless!

I have found sometimes that a girls personality will push her looks up. So a 7 with an amazing personality becomes and 8! I seriously hardly ever call a girl a 10, only 9s - they become a 10 if they have an awesome personality.

I wouldn't feel shallow or beat yourself up! I'd just keep her as a good mate or friends with benefits. I need the whole package to get serious and probably so does everyone else... that's just my tuppence worth


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Default 20-09-2011, 08:35 AM

Have been thinking about this with my mate.

After several months of only going for hot girls (unsuccessfully) you end up in a bad place with all that failure.

Yet when I flirt with less hot girls I have a great night, they are friendly approachable, usually have decent personalities.

So I've decided to only go for the less hot ones this week.

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Default 20-09-2011, 08:41 AM

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Have been thinking about this with my mate.

After several months of only going for hot girls (unsuccessfully) you end up in a bad place with all that failure.

Yet when I flirt with less hot girls I have a great night, they are friendly approachable, usually have decent personalities.

So I've decided to only go for the less hot ones this week.

May write a Field Report
ive said it before... fit women dont responde well to cold approach from less attractive men... they see it as a personal insult that you hold them on the same level.

and as we know women being self depricating... they could never imagine its is you thinking your a 10 aswell.... but that she is whatever number u r


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Default 20-09-2011, 08:53 AM

right im gonna play the race card here!

I love dating girls other than white english girls.
Russians, Czechs, Polish, Chinese, Columbian, black, Indian, Pakistani

now when i am out and about with one, namely ones that obviously are a different race to me i feel akward being seen out -- with black girls, chinese, asians, etc
feel that people are looking at me and this is going to sound horrible and actually pretty racist - i feel like it lowers my value because on face value it 'looks' like i cant get myself a nice white english girl and instead am out with a chinese girl who looks a bit like a mail order bride or somthing (even though she is stunning) -- i do notice people look at me.
When i dated a pakistani girl she was the one that actually told me i needed to be prepared to be stared at when we were out together.

as ive dated more 'differnt' girls it bothers me less and less now - last night i was out on a date with a girl origionally from Sudan - camebridge educated and had a PHD in Sports psychology - i realised i am less bothered now being seen out with different girls

the fact of the matter is i just dont particularily like white english girls, sexually and from a relationship point of view


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Default 20-09-2011, 11:20 AM

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There are plenty of very fit girls with bad attitude and that for me doesn't even make me want to sleep with them.
Agree with this



Al_phaD

Don't think it is a case of "lowering my standards"

Just being open minded and changing my priorities of what I find attractive.

I'm simply saying "this week I'm going to judge girls on their personalities"

I reckon it'll make for a more enjoyable night out

I live in a small town and the hotter girls still have that "I'm the hottest girl in school" kind of vibe.

And to (mis)quote Aliens (because everything in life can be distilled to a quote from Aliens)

"Girl got a corncob up her ass"
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Default 20-09-2011, 11:38 AM

Hmmmm....

There seem to be two schools of thought on this...

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Default 20-09-2011, 11:42 AM

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Agree with this
And to (mis)quote Aliens (because everything in life can be distilled to a quote from Aliens)
Ok i didnt know this and being a fan of the Aliens Films - except really 3 and 4 and the aliens V Preditors ones.

I would like to hear more of 'said' Aliens quotes?



I would also like to rate this against Arnie Quotes


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Default 20-09-2011, 12:09 PM

No worries.

Pick a situation and I'll "Aliens" it up
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