Lasting in bed
 

I want everyone to be honest in this thread.
Who has had problems with blowing their load too fast?
What did you do to overcome this problem?

I usually don't have the issue, apart from one of my exs, who I just worshipped and was obsessed with her, and it was just a fail.

Due to me usually being in relationships when having sex, I'm new to doing it when single. And for some reason, it is slightly nagging in my head about, shit, what if its crap.

I know I just need to get rid of that shitty thought, MAN UP and be awesome! But just the thought of it going wrong is a downward spiral. I am pretty good at throwing things to the back of my mind, but this seems to come back sometimes.

knock 1 out before you head out for the evening...

I can identify with this.

My long term Ex of 10 years came really easily -- i could just go for it with her and whenever i was going to cum i knew she would be right there with me

we split up and i start playing the field massively and suddenly OMG girls can be so different when it comes to what gets them off with sex

Some cum off penetration, some only clit, some like their clits rubbing softly, some hard, some need mega amounts of stimulation to get them off.

Ive had sex with some girls and i just think...fuck this i cant be arsed putting up with this.

so anyway -- new girl, you are into her and shes hot - yeah i struggle to control myself big time somtimes. I`ll either do 1 or 2 things -- 1 i`ll slow right down and make sure im controlling whats going on that way i can slowly build up again.
or 2 somtimes i take Cialis -- which basically guaruntees me to be a god in bed
I can cum quick the first time round then be back on her fucking her again in 5 minutes and lasting plenty long enough, can then get back on again however many times i want to.

If you dont really give a shit about her--dont worry about it, if you do , have a plan!

you can also try somthing like this:
http://www.britishcondoms.co.uk/safe...ay-condom.html

How does one get hold of Cialis? Does it really work? Is this just a psychological thing?

Points to note, don't google cialis at work then go throught the free consultation...

"Impotance Consultation" :non:

Cialis is a fantastic med, of course it works
it lasts for upto 36 hours and unlike viagra which causes flushing, head ache
doesnt have any of those effects, also you dont walk round with an erection, it just appears when you want it!

get these ones
Tadalafil - 20mg (10 Soft Tablets)

totally reputable site ive spent LOADS of money there and know lots of others have too.

Lol I googled it on my phone..

Edit: Thanks Refl3x!

Edit 2: Refl3x.. Plain packaging? I live with my parents LOL

yes of course its plain packaging, you wouldnt know, it will have a customs label on it though as it comes in through europe.

I appreciate the honesty of this thread.

I just don't understand why some days, I could go for hours and hours and just be epic and give a girl double figures orgasms,

but then other days.. FAIL?

And K.. I can't see logic in this, in case you can't go again after..

You can get some decent chinese herbal pills off ebay, worked good for me this weekend! Try not to rely on things like this too much though, get good at everything thats not penetrative if you are worried about showing her a good time!

To be honest I would rather not reply on medication..

I am curious as to why sometimes I can feel on top of the moon and bone for hours, and then times like now, I am not worried per se, but just feel a slight nag in my head of doubt..

Citalopram (antidepressant retards ejaculation also)

thing is wether you dont want meds to be involved or not you will alsways be in new situations with girls and be so wound up sexually and into her at times that you cant control yourself.

you cant set a clock and think right with every girl i will cum in 5 minutes
If you are fucking the same girl its usually not a problem, its when its a new one and it feels like christmas day to you! thats when i would use meds if i was going to
you dont need them after youve fucked them on a few occasions

That's put it into a different perspective for me Refl3x never thought of it like that..
Do you use meds when banging a new chick then?

Mate SSRIs are bad news, I used to be on Fluoxetine, I'm not going into the reasons for taking myself off it, but I did actively look into the whole SSRI effect and it scared the shit out of me. I have serious reservations about the long term effect on brain chemistry.
It's your choice at the end of the day, my best mate has just gone onto Citalopram, he made the choice despite the evidence I presented him with, same with everyone. I will never touch them again though.

there is stuff u can buy in sex shops to numb u

K I'm really not comfortable with injecting myself lol but thanks anyway!

Just ponder the fact that if your in the north of england then statistically theres a 50% chance you getting reflex's sloppy seconds from the night before.

rofl

But Sapphire my dear, not only have i ventured as far down as Heathrow to spend a lovely weekend fucking Prince Andrews Sports Massage therapist, but i have also been international and as we speak have a plane ticket booked for Eastern Europe

THERE IS KNOWHERE YOU CAN HIDE

Ive got some of that at home, never actually risked using it with a woman as when i tested it alone with PALMela HANDerson i put 4 sprays of it on and my cock felt like it was somone elses!

don't mean to boast but I can keep it up after ejaculating but after I usually can't be arsed so she's usually always on top.

but I did go through a phase of exercising my pc muscle a lot.

also I have problems fully climaxing according to the dear diedre (don't know how to spell it) section in the sun it's cos I'm either worrying about being good in bed or my mum made sex seem dirty both of these could be true.

Sometimes I keep it up after, but not regularly.

I can relate to what Refl3x says, when you feel comfortable with the girl and have seen her a few times, it no longer matters, but when its the first time, you're excited and BOOM.

At least this is a common problem..

pal ive had all sorst of sexual mishaps, youve just got to laugh about it and not let it bother you.

I remember once i was so sexually excited, i licked this girl and as soon as i entered her i came! proper american pie moment-- she wasnt too pleased and i wasnt too arsed about it as she didnt matter to me.
Ive had sex with girls and not been able to get hard due to stimulant use or sleeping tablet residues.
just laugh about it and dont go all weird on her and embarrassed.

it helps though in those situations if you have some cialis handy because while shes thinking 'omg hes shit in bed' you can pop one and come back with a vengence 25 mins later.

you could always just say to her omg - im so into you and fancy you so much i cant control myself

sex gets really good when its with somone you care about and somone youve had sex with a few times-- it takes time to syncronise with each other

ive come round full circle and find sex with somone i dont ahve feelings for empty and pointless-- i never felt i would develop the same view a lot of girls get about sex but i have.

Any other suppliers of Cialis?

I've had situations in the past where I couldn't get it up cos of nerves or whatever, and when I came too fast cos of excitement, but I took the wrong approach to it, I did feel a bit embarassed and frustrated where as now I would just laugh!

I have to remember sex is for pleasure and yeah I kinda agree, even at my age of 21 next week, I've had sex with plenty of one night stands and it just doesn't mean anything, but at the same time I feel too young to settle down..

I feel like a pimp lol
Super P-Force (Sildenafil/Dapoxetine) - 100mg/ 60mg (4 Tablets)
ive got some of them at home, tried one a few weeks ago - much more full on and faster acting then cialis but i was impressed - only lasts 4/5 hours though
its a viagra combination-- i would maybe half one of those the first time you try it

I don't want to sound an idiot, having never taken any of these..
You just pop one half hour before sex, then the pill stops you cumin?

Or do you just blow it once, then get hard after cos of the pill? Or just stay hard even when you blow it?

With Ciallis, you take it 1/2 hour before sex. Whether you cum within the first nanoseconds, it doesnt really matter cos you will be hard again 5-10 minutes later. In the meantime, you can still lick her whilst waiting to get hard. WIn-win situation.

I'd guess that you were worried about not performing as well without the pill, so your expectation became a self-fulfilling prophecy. (I've found the only times this has ever happened to me have been when I've been worried about it, oh and ye once with a fat girl who I let drag me home whilst drunk, not cool)

i used to have a bit of trouble here... especially when i slept with someone for the first time

now i can go for ages, it's psychological. This is gonna sound fucking weird but i'm ridiculously squeemish and scared of needles, so i just think about the last time i had a blood test and it just keeps me in check. if i feel like i'm starting to lose control i just slow down or stop for a minute and then get right back on with it.

I Get the opposite of this, delayed ejaculation. Pretty much can't cum when I'm drunk and need hard rough rough sex to climax with a girl, sounds good until you get girls all paranoid about how they can't make you cum and after two hours your knackered and just wanna blow your load, can cum with my current girlfriend though, but only in certain positions where I can get the speed friction and only without a jonny.

It is psychological and I'm just being an idiot but at the time, its like ARGHHHHHHHH cos I proper wanted it as well..

What do you do in this situation?

DJ, losing your mojo can be a symptom of over training, FYI. Especially cardio, can deplete you.

PS

This is true, but I haven't been training hard lately. Haven't done cardio in like 2 weeks..

Its psychological and its spiralling downwards, when it comes to sex, now this unfortunate event has happened, just one thought of "what if I don't stay up" is enough to fuck it all up good and truly from there..

stop having a bloody panic!


when you couldnt get hard why didnt you just go and drop half a tablet and forget about it.

If im in that situation and i dont have access to anything i just have a 20 minutes break, go get a big glass of water and chill before getting her to play with me and showing her how to do it properly before nailing her

there is a simple exercise you can do and no need for meds... every time you go for a piss: start, then stop and hold for a count of 10, then strat again, then stop and hold for a count of 10. Do that three times each time you go for a wee. A few times a day and after a week or two you will see a massive improvement... you'r errection will get harder and you will controll when you come..

Does alcohol affect meds like super p force?
It was obviously nerves not giving me a hard on.. I don't know why..

But she's coming round tonight, guna be an empty house all night, so we can just get naked and play, so I'm just guna relax, glass of wine, fuck her senseless!

I will try the exercises too

I will be honest..

I can always get hard when wanking. I never lose erection mid way
I don't lose erection during sex. Its just the build up to sex that I've lost it...

I can always get hard to porn, and yes, even if I didn't want to..

So yeah, its just when theres a girl, and I'm nervous or worrying or something..

I hope I've entertained on your day off

This helped me out loads

PC Muscle Exercises : A Great Remedy to Premature Ejaculation

Much love,

Craigus

K im sure He`ll invite you round to watch if you ask nicely, you could take a camera and tape measure with you

Refl3x, ever used super p force with alcohol?

On a serious note, This shits been on my mind on n off all day.. I don't feel as worried anymore, cos lets face it, its not the end of the world, I just need to be a man n take control.. but I do still get the odd nagging thought..

But as Phil famously said: FUCK IT

And the mantra I try to live by is: Don't worry about shit you can't change..

I think I just feel a bit intimidated cos she's so forward and sexual when usually I'm chasing, but she's just putting it on a plate for me